I have to admit, I love those ah-ha moments I get. Those moments of clarity that just blow open your world. I was thinking about a dear friend. Her boss is jealous of her knowledge base, it makes her feel inferior, and because of this, my friend struggles at work.
I was thinking about how the boss, was not opening herself up to support or not dealing with her own “I’m not good enough”. By comments she has made at her job, she feels or perhaps knows that her time is limited there, yet the need to not change is destroying her her life. This is when I heard the Great Tree say, “She has forgotten her purpose here” followed by “Every judgement against another is a nail in the coffin of your own spiritual evolution”.
Wow! Maybe I better look at my own life and the many judgements I can and unfortunately do make on others, rather than worry about my friend and her boss. It’s not as if I can do anything about that.
Ever notice that when you really decide to knuckle down and start paying attention the evidence of your actions just flies into your periphery as well as dead center. These are opportunities of growth. These are the places within that you can shift and move on. Not just dwell on hurts, but really move past them and into the fullness of who you really are.
Stop blaming others for what they done to you (real or imagined) and start looking at where your blame is really directed at yourself. Ultimately, it really does come down to loving yourself just as you are, flaws included and then being compassionate enough to learn your lessons and make real life changes. It’s great to recognize those places you wish to change, but you have to make the steps to do so.
Here’s what I’m choosing to do. I choose to not judge others (to the best of my ability that it, I’m far from perfect), until I can learn to not judge myself. And that’s the catch! When I stop judging me, I won’t feel the need to judge others.
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